Meet Little Luca

Meet the littlest McMay! Little Luca!

Born August 2, 2016 at a whopping 9 lbs he is the complete opposite of his brother, Matius.

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Where these two differ in size, they share similar personality traits. They are both extremely laid back, go-with-the-flow, chill kids. Unless of course you are asking him to drink out of a bottle. Then, well…all bets are off!

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Luca is definitely our “macho kid” we joke that he will be our football player and Matius will be our gymnast. He may be all boy but DANG this kid is beautiful.

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People stop what they are doing at the grocery store to comment on his good looks and mild manner. He is so laid back. I am not trying to brag but I swear to you this kid never cries. Ok, ok. My babysitter would have a different story for you so I guess I should clarify. He never cries as long as he is being held or carried or pushed. As long as he is moving, he is happy!

Little Miss McMay just absolutely ADORES Luca. She plays little mama to both the boys but she LOVES Luca. She is all about picking out his outfits, feeding him a bottle, and changing his diapers (as long as it isn’t poopy!)

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Little Luca is a TOTAL mamas boy. Sheri watched the boys the other night so Mr. and Mrs. McMay could go see a show (Jersey Boys). She said Luca was restless and fussy until I got home. What can I say, these boys just love their mama!!!

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Luca abolutely ADORES his big brother. I’m fairly certain that he will be walking soon just so he can chase after and keep up with Matius!

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Oh, and Luca loves his Aunt Zizi, too!

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Must not forget about Cooper here….the face slobbers must get licked daily. Cooper sure does love his babies!

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So, because Luca likes to be held, this is a common occurence in our household. We take turns holding the baby and eating so we can all eat!

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This kid has had great head and neck control since he came out of the womb. He is just super strong.

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And did I mention how Dapper he is? Goodness! THOSE CHEEKS THOUGH!!!!

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And he loves Leo too!

The smile on his face when he see Leo!!!

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Luca is a side sleeper just like his mama and brother!

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And can sleep just about anywhere! He’s been sleeping through the night since he was about 8 weeks old.

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He loves sitting in his walker and yesterday, he pushed himself backwards and moved it about 6 inches. Not even kidding….and this kid isn’t even four months old yet. He’s also nearly outgrown the 6 month clothes….The problem I’m having is that this time of year after Matius was born he was barely wearing 3 month clothes….so all the stuff I saved is the wrong season! :-/ We make it work! Good thing I got jackets on sale at Oshkosh!!!

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Luca loves to watch Matius play on the iPad!

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And I shall leave you with this….boys will be boys! <3

Meet Mischief Maker Matius

Apologies- sorry for the delay in a new post…I’ve been putting this off. Mostly because I didn’t know HOW IN THE WORLD I was going to whittle this down. So, second apology….I’m sorry this is so long. This is the shortest I could do! I just love this kid so mucho!

Meet the Mischief Maker of the house. He is a sweet tea lovin, carbaholic, who only likes to go grocery shopping if he gets a donut, a bolillo (little loaf of bread), or gets to see PePe (the blow up parrot who was tragically murdered a few weeks ago…we told him PePe died….just didn’t go into the graphic slashing details. He’d be devastated. We’ll give him the real story when he’s older.) He loves fiercely, loves to give squeezes, and will only give kisses if he feels like it. With his infectious laugh and daring spirit, he is our STRONG WILLED CHILD. To anyone who says that a child cannot have already developed an opinion by the ripe age of TWO, I challenge you.

Mr. Matius Lee McMay was born September 9, 2014…even though he wasn’t due until October 11, 2014.

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Matius came into this world on his own terms and has not let us forget that the terms are his since then. If you care to read about his birth story, you can do so here: Birth Story

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Our parenting style with him has changed from “with an iron fist” to that of “negotiating with grace” (or choosing our battles). He needs to feel that he has a say. I wonder where he got this from because it couldn’t POSSIBLY have come from his mother….. 😉 Must be a first born child thing….

From the minute he was born, he had his mommy and daddy wrapped around his finger. But ultimately, he’s a true mamas boy. There is no one in this world quite like mama.

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He loves his mama and daddeeee sooo much but there are several other important people and things in his life. This is by NO means an exhaustive list. I do not mean to leave anyone out but if I named EVERY single important person in this kid’s life, we’d be here forever. So here are just a few:

Matius is a total animal lover! He loves his “puckies,” Riley, Cooper, Tinker Bell, and Hunter. First thing every morning, he wants to let them out of their crates. He is especially loving the little ones right now because they are his size. He and Cooper have a very serious love hate relationship. He loves him….until Cooper snatches his food….and then it’s World War THREE up in here!!!

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There are some really special and important men in Matius’ life. All grandfather figures 

This kid like SERIOUSLY LOVES our neighbor, Leo. As soon as we pull down our road he starts chanting “Leooooooooooooo” it’s just about the cutest thing ever. Leo is Matius’ Texas grandpa since both of his grandfathers live in Illinois (way too far away!)

Now, how does one win over a strong will child so completely? It’s simple….POPSICLES. The kid is a sugar fiend.

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The next person is his PaPaw- Michala’s dad. Matius LOVES to call his PaPaw on video chat and talk to him on his way home from daycare.

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And last but not least, we have Papa (confusing right?) 🙂 Matius sure loves him and thinks he’s the funniest guy around. He especially loves when we go to the beach!!!

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There is not a section big enough for the next two. Uncle Roy and Aunt Zizi. (Roy and Elizabeth) My heart explodes thinking about the love between these three. It is incredibly. Matius was so tiny when he was first born and we were afraid to put him in daycare right away. So, Elizabeth watched him for the first three months of his little life. This is what started an incredibly beautiful relationship between these two. Eventually, she met Roy and Matius approved almost instantly. Roy had never even held a baby before Matius… 🙂  These two could turn this little guy’s worst day into the best day ever in just a matter of seconds. Matius especially loves when they play their guitars or piano or he can run around naked at their house and water the garden.

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Next up we have Sheri aka Shedi and Auryana aka NANA. He immediately asks for Nana when I pick him up from daycare. And he loves to ask Shedi for things! 🙂 The love here is just incredible. Auryana and Matius definitely act like siblings already!

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Oh, and this boy LOVES cheesing for the camera!!!

A few random things he loves:

  1. Swinging with mom and dad- what kid DOESN’T love this?

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2. Stealing mama’s cup for a drink…even when he has his own!

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3. Snapchat….enough said.

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4. Bubbles! Even eating them!

5. Throwing Texas size tantrums….

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6. Stuffed animals of any kind

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7. Facetiming with Aunt Brenna and Uncle Tyler and their poochie, Gracie

8. Cooking- real cooking- he loves helping mama in the kitchen. And pretend cooking- dragging out all the pots and pans….

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9. Ice Cream aka “IIIIICE”

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10. Sleeping in the craziest places and positions….

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11. Playing “Cowboy”

12. He’s an overall daredevil…

12. He’s STARTING to FINALLY want something to do with his little brother. He was pretty indifferent for a while.

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13. BUC-EEEEEEES!!! He LOVES Buc-ee and all things related! @Buc-ees

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14. Having someone to play with. He LOVES other kids and truly has a heart of Gold.

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15. Playing peek-a-boo wherever possible!

16. He’s obsessed with his “lankie” or “lanka” aka “Blanket”

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17. and last but not least he fills our hearts to bursting more than I ever thought possible. He looks so sweet and peaceful…and grown in this picture. Now please excuse me while I go bawl my eyes out because I’ve realized how quickly my baby cakes is growing up. Cherish your babies, folks. They don’t keep for but a second.

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Signing off,

xoxoxox,

Michala

Mrs. McMay

Meet Little Miss McMay aka Auryana Sassy Pants

Meet Auryana! Also known as Little Miss Sassy pants!!                           (here I will share a million-bazillion photos of her, because, WHY NOT? she’s my kid!)

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Weighing in at just around 65 pounds at the bossy age of 9 1/2, she has more personality than any one child should have. She can’t always contain herself. Auryana loves to color, sing, dress up, and make video’s on Musical.ly and does not enjoying being rushed or told what to do. She moves at a turtle-pace on 95% of everything she does. Even still, she has her own style and is sure to be fashiony every single day….unless we’re in a hurry and then I just throw clothes at her and tell her to put them on (which she does NOT appreciate, but hey sometimes we gotta go!)

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From day one, this child has had her own ideas without the ability to influence her thoughts. She resisted the nurses on the day she was born, played dead (possum) when we tried to feed or wake her from 1 week to 5 months, and would throw a HUGE fit (and fall back in it, literally) at the age of 2 when she couldn’t put on her own tennis shoes and tie them herself. -_- I believe children are born with a personality and some tend to show theirs earlier than others. As you can see below….

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By age 1, she knew 3 colors well : red, yellow, and blue; red was her favorite (this was before discovering hot pink, of course.) I, as her mother, didn’t even get to pick out the decorations for her first birthday party. She knew EXACTLY what she wanted. Little Mermaid cake (Ariel has red hair), red plates, napkins, and utensils, red roses and red carnations, and of course vanilla ice cream (Blue Bell only for this southern lady). Yup that’s Miss Auryana, she does what she wants and doesn’t care what anyone else thinks….hmmm sounds like someone else I know (currently pointing the finger at the mirror).

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Auryana loves her friends and has the biggest most generous heart I’ve ever seen in a little girl. She always makes sure her friends are taken care of. She likes to mother Matius and Luca when she’s with them, making sure they don’t get hurt and have whatever they need.

And no matter what popular belief tells you, this child is 100% my mother….

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My mother on the left, Auryana on the right. 

She isn’t a big fan of working hard or waking up, but then who is, so it’s a constant battle to get this child to wake up and march! (figure of speech of course) With that being said, she can really be a lot of fun and entertainment. I need to find her old video’s where she’s creative dancing and performance singing. You will enjoy! I should probably also mention that she loves LuLaRoe almost as much as I do and even more so loves modeling it. I think I’ve said enough about my kid now, so I’ll give it a rest, for now…! 😉

 

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A cute picture I know she won’t appreciate me sharing, since she’s asleep and didn’t have a say in me posting it! HA gotta love being a parent!

Signing off, Ms. McMay

Reflections

As I sit here, drinking wine, thinking about the day, I realize how incredibly blessed we are.

Sheri, Auryana, Luca, and Michala had a SUPER long day with two LuLaRoe parties.

Evan, Matius, and the dogs had a long day cleaning the house and getting ready for two showings.

Currently, Sheri is in the shower, Evan is playing video games, Luca is sleeping, and Matius and Auryana are playing.

Being 7 years apart, could be very difficult. And most kids at 9.5 years old would never want to play with a two year old. Those two seriously could play all day.

We had a LuLaRoe party at Katy Elite Volley Ball on Saturday morning. Then we headed to our friend Ashley’s house for another one. This was a shopping event for our Mom’s group (Arrow) at church.  Ashley sells Stella and Dot, Julianne was there selling Scentsy, Allison was there to promote her new non-profit. Several people from our church came to shop! Evan came with Matius and all our kiddos just ran around and played while we all shopped. It was truly a wonderful, great time. The weather was perfect, the wine delicious, and the kids…well….they’re still alive….just very dirty. 🙂

Tonight at dinner, while asking everyone what the high point and low point of their day was Auryana said “getting to play with new friends.” Those kids played hard! We were all so busy, no one got any pictures!

This girl has been through so much, it’s so great to hear that she had a good time.

Can’t wait for more fun times with friends.

I think the high/lows will be a new tradition for our family dinners at the McMay house!!!

xoxox

Michala

Now I leave you with a video to brighten your day. I dare you to try not to laugh!!! 😀

A Typical Day with the McMay’s

What does a typical day with the McMay’s look like? Well some of you have been able to witness first-hand, but for those of you who have no idea, we decided to give you a little insight to our daily shenanigans. We shall start with a typical weekend day. Narrated by Sheri.

7:00 am alarm goes off

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8:00 am- “Oh ASDFJLKASJDKFHALKSHFLJSGHADS we’re late!!” scrambles around to find clothes and wake up the kid. “AURYANA (while shaking her furiously because heaven knows NOTHING can wake this child) get up we’re late we have to be at Michala’s in 15 minutes (it’s a 12 minute drive..)!!!!!

Auryana– (upset fussing sounds, kicks and turns over and stay asleep)

As I rush around to throw myself together and literally pull Auryana out of the bed by her ankles, I’m FB group messaging Evan and Michala to wake UP! and of course i’m getting no response. and I used speak to text because who can text in a furry and instead of “wake up!!” I send “makeup!” but oh well no time to edit.

10 minutes later, I have no idea how (time must have stopped), we’re rushing out the door with shoes on (well at least one of us has A shoe on) and speeding up the highway to the McWhirter’s house. Letting ourselves in with the memorized door code, not even the dogs are barking. Yikes!

bang bang bang (on the bedroom door)

Michala: um yeah?

me: DUDE It’s 8:30 we have to be there in 30 minutes!

Michala: OMG my alarm didn’t go off!! Can you get Luca dressed?

We all rush around the house to dress the boys, feed the dogs and ourselves, and look alive (forget makeup, who has time for that?) Did I mention we’re all tired because we were up until 1am working on LuLaRoe inventory and pictures?

15 minutes later, somehow, everyone is fed, clothed, and loading up the car, just don’t ask how we smell! lol

Michala: Evan McWhirter do NOT leave the gun on top of the refrigerator, and I know it’s loaded! If the house shows today that’s not cool!

Evan: What’s the big deal, it’s out of reach and we’re in Texas now?!

Michala: That’s not the point, ugh whatever let’s gooooo!!!!

Matius: brief meltdown because he wants to mop the floor before we leave; we hand him a sucker instead and stick him in the car (#badmoms…? eh I’ve seen worse, I mean at least he ate his breakfast right?)

Everyone loaded in to 2 cars and both full to the brim with LuLaRoe containers, we head to our first destination, HOUSE HUNTING! oh yeah did I mention we have to look at 6+ houses before we do the LuLaRoe party. But our Realtor is awesome for getting up early and driving across town for us on Saturday morning, so we arrive with Starbucks for everyone!

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I think we found our house

6 houses later, the men are now exhausted from listening to us ladies pick apart every house we see, but we have one to place an offer on, but for now, we’re off to someone’s house who is hosting an in home pop up party. After 45 minutes of set up we interact with friends and have a great time sharing our LLR addiction. By this time we’re starving and the kids are tired.

Load up the car and head out for a quick Chick Fil A run because the kids can play and be loud, and we can sit for at least 10 minutes and breathe! I carry Luca to the table and Auryana helps Matius in a chair. Then I hand Luca off to mama Michala who then whips out her boob so Luca can join the family for lunch. Don’t mind us over here! You can imagine the looks we’ve already received from people trying to mind their meals. Finally all sat down and, oh crap I forgot my drink, before I even ask, Evan graciously goes and fetches my drink and the other utensils we forgot to grab. Minutes later Michala hands Luca back over the table to me and I proceed to pat his little back and kiss his cheek that may or may not be wet with boob milk. Oh well. Evan helps Auryana open her ketchup, because no she hasn’t even started eating yet (remember I said she’s slooooooww). Finally fed, the kids go run and play for a bit and we discuss our the rest of our day.

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We discuss dinner (yes at the lunch table, because food is life and we must plan our day around food) and agree on fajitas! homemade margarita’s too please! I’ll have a Dos with salt and lime, I can’t drink adult drinks. LOL Finally home and it’s like 5pm, don’t ask where the time went because we have no idea, we’re taking turns wiping faces and butts, cooking, cleaning off the dinner table, feeding the animals and getting them outside, and making our drinks (ok we made drinks first, of course we have to get relaxed).

After dinner Evan plays a little guitar hero for us while Auryana and Matius play with toys in the front room. It’s now 8pm, again don’t know where the time went. Michala and I are updating our inventory to reflect the items sold and taking turns bounce Luca back and forth because he wants to be held today. 🙂

Matius: Mommy, I go poohhp

Michala: You need to go poop? Okay go sit on your potty

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Matius concentrating on the potty

Everything is going well and we go back to what we’re doing….shortly after we smell poop but don’t see Matius on the potty anymore…

Evan: ummm what is that? (point to an unidentified object on the floor in front of the TV console)

Me: ummm that looks like poop

Michala: (laughing histerically) MATIUSSSS did you poop?

Matius: Nope

And now we know….At least today we do…….WHO SHIT IN THE DEN?!

#whoshitintheden -which we’ve had to ask more than once….this was just the first.

 

The Carbon Copy Dogs

Meet Cooper and Riley
Fur babies to Michala, Evan, Matius, and Luca


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Riley– AKA- Riley Kins, Riley Smiley, Riley Son, Riwey, etc.  Riley is a 100% Beagle. She was a gift from Mrs. McMay’s ex-boyfriend in college who bred Beagles. Mr. McMay has taken her on as his own (unless she’s being bad, then he won’t claim her and refers to her as “Your DOG!”)  Riley is a sassafras who isn’t afraid to tell you EXACTLY what she thinks. She is spectacular with kids and is an amazing little hunter. She has caught opossums, birds in mid air, rabbits, kittens (yea…. ). If the clock reaches 5pm and you haven’t fed her yet, she is sure to let you know. Riley generally keeps to herself but also doesn’t like when her human’s have been gone from her for too long. She is sure to let you know if she is unhappy with you.

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Cooper– AKA- Coop, Kookie, Shithead (pronounced SHITHEED), Cooper Wooper, Pooper Scooper, etc.

Cooper is a mix between a Rhodesian Ridgeback (50%), Black Lab (25%), and Pit Bull (25%). Most people notice his “mohawk” and think he is agitated and are immediately afraid of him. It’s not him being upset, that’s just how his hair grows! This is a feature of the Ridgeback. This guy is one beast of a dog. He weighs about 85lbs but thinks he is the size of a chihuahua. He loves sun bathing, sitting on the back of the couch like a cat, and generally just being in everyone’s business. He likes to steal food off Matius’ plate when he leaves it unattended. Sandwiches are his favorite. He is an excellent listener and overall great dog. Most people are TERRIFIED of him because of his size and overly aggressive bark. He is all bark but a serious coward. His favorite past times include jumping 6 foot fences to play with the neighbor’s chickens, barking loudly when people run in the house, and freaking out when someone brings out any sort of cleaning device (broom, vacuum, etc)

Meet Tinkerbelle and Hunter
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Tinkerbelle– AKA- Tink Tink, Stinky, Stinkerbell, and boing boing

Tinkerbelle is a rescue chihuahua. She came to our home at the age of 1.5 yrs and has been the best little furbaby. She is somehow a mix between a short and long hair chihuahua and has a double coat. She can literally bounce up and down like a Pogo stick, non-stop, for like an hour. She is right at 7 lbs and has a heart of gold. Like most chihuahua’s she has a big bad bark and thinks she’s the boss. Unlike most chihuahua’s however, she’s very good with children and other animals. I still make sure the kids are careful with her though since her tiny size is likely to cause her intimidation that could lead to her biting someone. Tink is a good girl and likes to keep the others in line…or so she thinks. She also has a foot fetish. She would prefer to lay near your feet and have you pet her using your feet at all times.

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Hunter– AKA- Huntybear

Hunter is a tiny tank. He looks small but weighs a hefty 16 lbs. Hunter is also a rescue and we got him at the age of 7 months. What a strange little guy he is. For his first 6-months with us, he had to wear baby diapers. He just couldn’t contain his excitement when he got human interaction, or attention from Tink. In fact, you could just look at him and he would pee himself. We heard his first bark (very raspy) when he was nearly 1 yr old. He tends to whine with the most obnoxious high pitched squeal you’ve ever heard; kind of makes you want to stab yourself in the ears. We call him our Down Syndrome baby. This is not at all intended to be in anyway rude to the Downs community, in fact, we like to acknowledge that animals can have many similarities to humans who possess special talents or have special needs. Hunter is just the sweetest dog ever, always happy and he’s never bit anyone or even snapped. He will lay down and roll to his back in a submissive state at the instant of any threat. He’s usually out of place and confused on his role in life. His preferred spot is right next to his human’s (anyone really, he’s not picky). He’s great at welcoming newcomers too, he will love ANYONE who gives him attention. He also loves cats.

Now, we have mentioned it before….our dogs are eerily similar. Tink is like a miniature version (with just as much SASS) of Riley. Hunter is a “Mini Cooper” hahaha. –>See what I did there? 🙂

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Of course when we try to get pictures of them together they won’t cooperate. We will have to work on this. But for now, here are some pictures of them next to each other so you can see some similarities.

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Cooper and Hunter are both HUGE babies. They love to snuggle under blankets and they absolutely LOVE their little people. Cooper must be with his humans at all times and Hunter hides behind his peeps when he gets afraid. Both of them are complete cowards but the sweetest little (or large) beasts around once you get to know them.

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The stare-down.

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Look at those big ol’ babies!

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Both sets of pooches are best friends. Riley and Cooper are inseparable as are Tink and Hunter.

Can you imagine the wild and fun time we are going to have when we all live together!?

Currently all four dogs are living with Michala and Evan because they got along after the first introduction. No sense in drawing out the inevitable…. 🙂

They can’t wait to move in and have their HUGE yard to frolic and play!

The Day He Broke My Heart

Waterworks Alert! Long read too…
Some of you have asked what brought us all together. Why do we have 1.5 families living under the same roof? Well I’ve decided to share the story (written by Sheri). Here’s how it goes.

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Our love story starts out like any other…we met at the at the Houston Rodeo Chili Cook-off in 2012. By accident of course, but as fate would have it, there are no accidents. We crossed paths and immediately took interest in each other. We tried to play it cool and just be friends but that didn’t last long. We made our relationship official on April 21, 2012 over text message. LOL yeah real grown up weren’t we. Daniel was traveling to Philly for work. He did A/V and traveled a LOT. Sort of set the pace for our relationship, as he was out of town for most all of our milestones. It wasn’t long after we started dating that we were convinced we were total soul mates. We laughed hard, we played hard, we loved hard, and we never let a little fight separate us. Now don’t get me wrong, we definitely had our share of problems, but we always found love to overcome it all.

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To say that Daniel was anything less than a total bad ass, would just be incorrect. This man was such a wild child, but had a huge heart and truly cared about the people in his life. I’ve been told numerous stories about his work life where he always gave a helping hand and always worked his butt off and encouraged others. He was an amazing step-dad to my daughter and she truly loved him. He wasn’t perfect but he sure was perfect in my eyes. I could love that man for 1,000 years and beyond. Maybe even slightly obsessed with him, I just couldn’t get enough.

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 Daniel and Auryana playing cards
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Daniel doing Auryana’s hair 🙂

After nearly 3 years of dating, Daniel finally got his way on purchasing a motorcycle he had always wanted. A Honda CBR 600. The orange and black became his logo along with his own crazy hashtag #UgonLerm2day. You have to be a Kevin Hart fan to get the pun (u gon learn + Lerma), but totally appropriate if you knew Daniel. I can’t say enough about this man, and I don’t want to write a whole novel here, so I’ll just stick to the basics. We had an awesome relationship. We were open and honest and told each other things that most couples wouldn’t dare share with their significant other. He had his best friends, and I had mine, but we had this other level friendship that is completely unexplainable.

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 After nearly 4 years of living together and figuring out this crazy life as a total power team, it all came to an excruciating halt. On April 6, 2016. The day started off like any other. We had a weekly date night while my daughter was in her gymnastics class, we would eat dinner together and chat about our future. He would tell me all his big plans for our wedding day, and tell me what he wanted to name his first born son…well he never actually came up with a name, but he would talk about it. We continued this date night for several weeks. On this particular week, we had our date night on Tuesday, and then Wednesday was usually bike night for the motorcycle guys (htownriderz). But for a few weeks they had changed their night to Thursdays so he was staying home Wednesday nights. This week on Thursday we had some plans, Auryana had to make up a missed gymnastics class, so this would be a second date night for the week. I figured he would go to bike night, but he insisted that we have a second date night. So he decided he would go riding with a few of the guys Wednesday night instead. I had to work late so he picked Auryana up and dinner and dropped her off at my work. (He came and picked up car up earlier that day and left his motorcycle parked outside of my office while he ran some errands and got her picked up). At 5pm he dropped her and dinner off at my office. He kissed me and told me he was going home to change and let Blue outside (Our pitbul furbaby) and would be home late. The time flew by as I worked busily and Auryana did homework. Around 7pm I finally took us home. Annoyed by the traffic, I noticed the road was blocked off in front of our neighborhood, so I had to detour to get home. I remember sending him a text about how annoyed I was. After finally getting home, I got us settled and Auryana was back to doing homework. I cant for the life of me figure out why in 4 hours I hadn’t heard from him and it never even occurred to me. We literally NEVER went more than an hour without a single text. We were big with checking in on each other, even when he was traveling or riding his motorcycle.

At 8:50 pm (CST) I sent him this text: “Hey babe I haven’t heard from you in like 4 hours, this is not like you, hope you’re okay, let me know”. 15 minutes later I got a knock on my door. The Sheriffs department. They were asking me questions about if I knew Daniel Lerma and how we were involved, I literally thought they were there on a warrant round-up (denial mode)…yeah he had a few of those (warrants). So I explained that this was our home together and he was my boyfriend of 4 years, etc. They found out I was home alone with my daughter (and I was in my pj’s) so they decided to inform me on my front porch that Daniel had been involved in an accident (at the entrance of my neighborhood). I asked if he was okay and they said “No ma’am I’m sorry, he passed away”. what the literal f*ck (shock mode)… At the moment those words hit my ears I felt like my spirit left my body. I dropped to the ground and felt light headed. My first thought was OH MY Gosh my life is forever changed, how the hell am I going to live without Daniel. When they told me I needed to call his mom (or drive to Katy to tell her) I was like ummm WHAT? okay (survival mode)… I called our best friend who had spent uncountable days/weekends with us in the last year instead. Once I got it out I called his mom, and I couldn’t even bare to tell her, but somehow I got it out. I stayed somewhere between survival mode and a total daze after that.

The next 3 days were a blur. Couldn’t hold down a single bite of food. Could hardly function. Lost 5 lbs. Didn’t shower or brush my teeth. The moment that came crashing down on me was when the medical examiner’s office told me to find a funeral home. My first thought was “WHAT the hell, 2 days ago we were discussing venues, and NOT for a freaking funeral”.
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HtownRiderz last ride for Daniel 4.14.16

I haven’t been the same since that day, not surprising. I didn’t just lose my boyfriend, I lost my best friend, my soulmate, my other half, my stability, my sanity. I can never replace that in my life. I have to find a way to let new things enter my life, somehow, but it’s hard. No one will ever compare to Daniel, there literally isn’t another person who is as awesome as he.  Now what I’m left with are pictures, memories, a couple of material things, and a big hole in my heart.

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Today, here I am, living a new life. Trying to be a better mom. Find myself again. Find a new direction. Somehow keep going, because in my mind, I have no other choice. Failure isn’t an option, dropping out of life isn’t an option. I’m sooooo thankful for the people in my life supporting me, and GOD, above all, for somehow keeping me in one piece.
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Forever in my heart my love <3

Daniel Alejandro Lerma (Medellin) August 19, 1986 – April 6, 2016
Leaving you with his song from his memorial service:

 

House Hunting for The Compound

House Hunting Excursion

We have spent the last several Saturdays looking at tons of houses. We have put offers in on a few… our house is STILL on the market.

After weeks and weeks of house hunting, we have finally settled on a house and our offer has been accepted. It’s somewhat of a fixer-upper, but lots of potential in a nice older neighborhood (lots of awesome trees and a huge yard!!!)

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We actually put an offer in on this house a while back but it was about $30k below their asking price so they rejected it….they had another person go under contract and didn’t complete it. So we offered again at our original offer price and they accepted!!! It pays to be patient. We knew the house needed a lot of work so we were unwilling to pay close to market value since we wanted to have the extra money for repairs and updates. Our idols are Young House Love... we want to be like them when we grow up!!! We will be flipping this into our dream home just like they do on their blog!

Any who-

Be looking for lots of posts and updates to come as we Raise our compound!!!!

We will officially be opening the compound as soon as we move in (hopefully by the end of the month!) Stay tuned for our move date!

Also, our dogs have been introduced to each other. Now we have to introduce them to you!

Next post: Meet the McMay pooches….

I promise you won’t be disappointed by their cuteness!